can you imagine how amazing and mindblowing it would be to meet people who’ve lived for generations on a continent you didn’t know existed, full of food you’ve never tasted and weather you’ve never experienced, and who have languages and religions and cultures that aren’t in any way influenced by yours
that would be completely unbelievable and valuable beyond words
or, you know, you could kill them all and build colonies
date a girl who reads. she’ll definitely wanna date you. she’s gonna make you happy. you. so fucking happy. that’s what matters, right. you’re a dude, right. tell me you’re a dude. okay. just checking. find a girl who reads. date that shit. date it. she’ll probably be a really good mom to your kids. do other girls even know about dreams. or laughing. or graceful china teacups. i didn’t fucking think so. you want someone to intellectually and emotionally stimulate you without being threatening or disagreeable. don’t worry. that’s why she’s here. so you can date her. not even the rain has such small fucking hands. listen you’re so smart you’re so real fucking smart. you think about things. things like libertarianismmsm. and the driftlessness of waking. you deserve her. you’ve earned her. that’s how great you are. she’s definitely not doing anything else with her life besides dating you. look at how cute you are. did your mom make that hat. back to the girl. she likes keats. that’s real cute right it’s real fucking cute. just get her books. all the time books. it’s gonna make her so fucking happy. don’t worry. literally any books. she doesn’t ever hate any books. it’s not like books have any particular meanings beyond being smart. thinking. having believing. look, the only way to be meaningful or real is books. it’s a fact. let’s move on. date her. don’t worry. she’s definitely not gay. go up to her. say. HEY. what the shit are you reading. does it make you cry. i’ll hold you. look at me. she’ll be super into that. she’s just out there. somewhere. reading. thinking. dreaming. waiting for you to date her.
date the shit out of her.
“The Internet has made it more possible for girls to engage openly in conversations about sex—and to consume sexual images—that were previously shared among networks of boys. Pornography (which can often, but not always, be misogynistic, homophobic, and racist) has exploded across the Internet, but so have feminist and queer communities that offer support to people whose sexualities have always been marginalized. Texting with your crush is about as “disembodied” as quill-to-scroll love letters were. Receiving a text from a person you like can be a glorious thing.”
“So on our message boards and in my many inboxes I read several dozen stories a year from miserable, lonely guys who insist that women won’t come near them despite the fact that they are just the nicest guys in the world.
So, what do you bring to the table? Because the Zooey Deschanel lookalike in the bookstore that you’ve been daydreaming about moisturizes her face for an hour every night and feels guilty when she eats anything other than salad for lunch. She’s going to be a surgeon in 10 years. What do you do?
“What, so you’re saying that I can’t get girls like that unless I have a nice job and make lots of money?”
No, your brain jumps to that conclusion so you have an excuse to write off everyone who rejects you by thinking that they’re just being shallow and selfish. I’m asking what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world? Don’t say that you’re a nice guy — that’s the bare minimum. Pretty girls have guys being nice to them 36 times a day. The patient is bleeding in the street. Do you know how to operate or not?
“Well, I’m not sexist or racist or greedy or shallow or abusive! Not like those other douchebags!”
I’m sorry, I know that this is hard to hear, but if all you can do is list a bunch of faults you don’t have, then back the fuck away from the patient. There’s a witty, handsome guy with a promising career ready to step in and operate.
Does that break your heart? OK, so now what? Are you going to mope about it, or are you going to learn how to do surgery? It’s up to you, but don’t complain about how girls fall for jerks; they fall for those jerks because those jerks have other things they can offer. “But I’m a great listener!” Are you? Because you’re willing to sit quietly in exchange for the chance to be in the proximity of a pretty girl (and spend every second imagining how soft her skin must be)? Well guess what, there’s another guy in her life who also knows how to do that, and he can play the guitar. Saying that you’re a nice guy is like a restaurant whose only selling point is that the food doesn’t make you sick. You’re like a new movie whose title is This Movie Is in English, and its tagline is “The actors are clearly visible.”
- David Wong, ”6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person”
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The Vaccines · What Did You Expect from the Vaccines?
the vaccines blow it up
everyones entitled to their own opinions, like “mario kart isnt good” or “i do not favor the color green”, but youre not entitled to thinking im undeserving of basic human rights, and youre not entitled to the belief that because of someones identity (whether it be sexual, racial, cultural, gender, or anything else) they deserve to be harmed. you are not entitled to be oppressive. this isnt something you can disagree with, because it isnt an opinion, i am merely stating facts
“The feminist movement likes to think of itself as being anti-oppression, anti-racism, anti-homophobia and anti-transphobia. And I do think that most feminists believe in these ideas in theory; unfortunately, many of them have a harder time putting these concepts into practice. There’s a tendency to ignore or even silence queer women, trans* women and women of colour, and while I don’t think that this silencing is intentional, exactly, I do think that many people, even those working within the feminist movement, don’t want to address this problem or even acknowledge that it happens.
Here’s the thing: when someone from an oppressed group speaks up, you listen. You shut your mouth and you listen. You don’t tell them that we’re all women, here, and the issues that we’re working to resolve are issues that affect all women. You don’t discount their lived experiences by countering with your own examples of being oppressed as a white woman. And finally, you most fucking do not pretend that sexism experienced by women of colour or queer women or trans women is exactly the same as what you’ve experienced. Because it’s not; it’s worse. Get off your high horse, acknowledge your privilege, and let someone else have the microphone for a while. Feminism isn’t an egalitarian movement if it’s only promoting the rights of white, educated, middle-class women.”